See, and that’s nice for your Shepard. But your Shepard isn’t all Shepards. Mine would be happy to marry Kaidan and take his last name - apart from the fact that it gives her a chance to step away from the limelight - something she’s never wanted, she only ever wanted to be a damned good Marine - and hide behind a name a little less famous, she’s a traditionalist and it’s important to her.
Taking a husband’s last name doesn’t make a woman any less badass. Shepard is still Shepard even if her last name is Alenko or Vakarian or whatever. I thought the point of feminism was allowing us to choose. Your statement that being bothered someone would “think she would do it” is really very telling and small-minded.